Rights of Wife upon the Husband
I. Treat: Treat her in an honorable and respectable manner. And live
with them honorably. (4:19).
2. Guide: As to those women on whose part you see ill-conduct, admonish them (first), refuse (next) to share their beds, (last) beat them (lightly, if it is useful); but if they return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance)..(4.34).
3. Teach: Teach her what she needs to know of religion, if she is not already knowledgeable. To provide correct understanding of religion is no less important then her need for food and clothing.
4. Allah says: 0 you who believe! Ward off yourselves and your families against a fire (hell). (66:6).
5. Make: Make her adhere to Islamic teaching and manners. He is responsible to protect and guard her. Allah says: Men are the protectors and maintainers ofwomen... (4:34).
6. Fear: ...if you fear that you shall not be able to deal justly (with them), then only one or (slaves) that your right hands posses. (4:3).
7. Feed: Feed her when you feed yourself. You clothe her when you clothe yourself. You do not strike the face. You do not shame her and you do not boycott her except in the house. (Abu Dawud).
8. Cloth: Verily, their rights upon you are that you treat them well with
respect to their clothing and food. (Tirmidhi, Ibn Majah).
9. Mercy: A believing man does not dislike a believing woman. If he dislikes one character in her, he is pleased with another. (Muslim).
10. Manner: I advise you to treat women well, for they are like captives under your control. iBukhari, Muslim).
11. Guardian: Rasul Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said: The man is responsible for his household and he will be asked about his guardianship. (Bukhari, Muslim).
12. Best: The best of you is the best to his family and I am the best to my family. (Tabarani).
13. Protect: He must not spread her private aspects or shortcomings to others. He is a guardian and entrusted for her. He should seek her welfare and defend her honor.
14. Cover: Rasul Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam said: The people in the worst position in Allah's sight on the Day of Resurrection is a man he goes to his wife and she to him and he then spreads her secrets. (Muslim).
