Quranic Ayats and Ahadith on
STRENGTHENING THE
BONDS OF KINSHIP (Relation and Relatives)
VERSES OF QUR'AN -E-PAK
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Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala says:
And worship and serve Allah. And . ascribe
nothing as partner to Him. (Show) Kindness to parents, and to near kindred, and
orphans, and the needy, and to the near neighbour, and the distant neighbour,
and your companion (in daily interactions or at work or in travel), and the
traveller, and slaves whom you possess. Verily! Allah loves not such as are
proud and boastful.
An-Nisa4:36
Note: A "close neighbour" is he who
resides in the immediate neighbourhood and is also a relative. The distant
neighbour is one who is not relative. Another interpretation is that a
"close neighbour" is one whose door is just near to yours and a
distant
neighbour is one whose door is away. A
"traveller includes a person accompanying you in a journey, a traveller
who is presently your guest or any traveller who is in need.
Allah Subhanahu wa Ta'ala says:
Indeed, Allah enjoins justice, Ihsan (doing
good) and generosity towards kinsfolk; and forbids immorality, all evil deeds
and oppression. He strongly exhorts
Strengthening Kinship you so that you might bear
(all this) in mind.
An-Nahl 16: 90
Note:In one sense this is the most comprehensive
verse of the Quran. Three things have been advised: 1. Justice
2. Ihsan.
3. Generosity to relatives.
And three things have been forbidden;
1. Immorality
2. All
evil deeds
3. Oppression.
Ihsan means that a man becomes a model of excellence
desiring good for others. It is a station above justice when a man gives more
than the rights due to others. He acquires the qualities of generosity,
forgiveness and sympathy.
AHADITH
253. Abu Darda' Radiyallahu 'anhu narrates: I
heard Rasulullah Sallallahu 'alaihi wasallam saying: A father is the best gate
of the gates of Paradise; so it is up to you, either you lose that gate (by
disobeying him), or protect it (by obeying him). (Tirmidhi)
254. 'Abdullah ibne-'Amr Radiyallahu 'anhuma
narrates that NabI Sallallahu 'alaihi wasallam said: Allah's pleasure lies in a
father's pleasure and Allah's displeasure lies in a father's displeasure.
(Tirmidhi)
255. 'Abdullah ibne-'Umar Radiyallahu 'anhuma
narrates: I heard Rasulullah Sallallahu 'alaihi wasallam saying: The finest act
of righteousness for a son is to treat his late father's friends kindly.
(Muslim)
256. 'Abdullah ibne-'Umar Radiyallahu 'anhuma
narrates: I heard Rasulullah Sallallahu 'alaihi wasallam saying: He, who likes
to maintain bonds of kinship with his father when he is in his grave,should
treat his father's brothers kindly after him. (Ibne-Hibban)
257. Anas ibne-Malik Radiyallahu 'anhu narrates
that Rasulullah Sallallahu 'alaihi wasallam said: He who wishes that his life
span be prolonged and his provisions increased should treat his parents well
and maintain his bonds of kinship. (Musnad Ahmad)
258. Mu'adh Radiyallahu 'anhu narrates:
Rasulullah Sallallahu 'alaihi wasallam said: He who treats his parents well,
for him are the good tidings of a prolonged lifespan. (Mustadrak Hakim)
259. Abu Usaid Malik ibne-RabT'ah As-Sa'idT
Radiyallahu 'anhu narrates that while we were with Rasulullah Sallallahu
'alaihi wasallam, a man from Bani Salamah came and said: O Rasulallah!
Is there any kindness left that I can do for my
parents, after their death? He said: Yes! By supplicating for them, asking for
forgiveness for them, carrying out their final instructions after their
death, joining ties of relationship which are dependant
on them and honouring their friends. (Abu Dawud)
260. Malik or Ibne-Malik Radiyallahu 'anhuma
narrates: I heard Nabi Saliallahu 'alaihi wasallam saying: He who has his
parents or one of them alive and did not treat them well will enter Fire, and
Allah will remove His Mercy from him. And any Muslim who sets free a Muslim
slave is liberated from the Fire.
(Abu
Ya'la. Musnad Ahmad, Tabarani, Targhib)
261. Abu Hurairah Radiyallahu 'anhu narrates
that Rasulullah Saliallahu 'alaihi wasallam said: May he be humiliated. May he
be humiliated. May he be humiliated. It was said: Who, O RasOlallah?
He replied: The one, who having one or both
parents live to old age, does not enter Paradise (by serving them and pleasing
their hearts)'
(Muslim)
262. Abu Hurairah Radiyallahu 'anhu narrates
that a man came to Rasulullah Saliallahu 'alaihi wasallam and asked: O
Rasulallah! Who is the most deserving of my excellent conduct and service? He
replied: Your mother. The man asked: Who is next? He replied: Then your mother.
The man asked: Who is next? He replied: Then your mother. The man asked: Who is
next? He replied: Then your father. (Bukhari)
263. 'A'ishah Radiyallahu 'anha narrates that
Rasulullah Saliallahu 'alaihi wasallam said: While asleep I found myself in
Paradise and heard someone reciting the Qur'an. I asked: Who is this? The
angels replied: Harithah ibne-Nu'man. Then Rasulullah
Saliallahu 'alaihi wasallam said to 'A'ishah: (indeed) Great deeds are like
this,
great deeds are like this! (it's the result of a
great deed that) Harithah ibne-Nu'man was very dutiful to his mother. (Musnad
Ahmad)
264. Asma binte Abu Bakr Radiyallahu 'anha says:
My mother who was an idolater visited me during the time of Rasulullah
Saliallahu 'alaihi wasallam. So I inquired from RasOlullah Saliallahu 'alaihi
wasallam: My mother has come and would like to
meet me, shall I meet her? He replied: Yes and be affectionate to your mother.
(BukharT)
265. 'A'ishah Radiyallahu 'anha narrates: I
asked: O Rasulallah! Amongst people who has the greatest right over a woman? He
replied: Her husband. I asked: Amongst people who has the greatest
right over a man? He replied: His mother.
(Mustadrak Hakim)
266. 'Abdullah ibne-'Umar Radiyallahu 'anhuma
narrates that verily a man came to Nabi Sallallahu 'alaihi wasallam and asked:
O Rasulallah! I have committed a major sin; can my turning in
repentance be accepted? He asked: Do you have a
mother? He replied: No. Rasululiah asked again: Do you have a maternal aunt? He
replied: Yes. Rasululiah said: Then serve her with kindness.
(TirmidhT)
267. Abu Umamah Radiyallahu 'anhu narrates that
Rasulullah Sallallahu 'alaihi wasallam said: The doing of good deeds saves a
person from a bad death; secret charity subsides Rabb's anger; and
strengthening bonds of kinship prolongs life.
(Tabarani, Majma-'uz- Zavvaid)
Note: 1. Strengthening kinship may include
helping relatives financially from one's earnings or devoting time for their
affairs.
(Ma'ariful Hadith)
2. Prolonging life means that when a person
strengthens bonds of kinship Allah blesses him. He is inspired to do good deeds
and it becomes easy for him to do actions which will be useful to him in the
Hereafter. (Nawawi)
268. Abu Hurairah Radiyallahu 'anhu narrates
that NabT Sallallahu 'alaihi wasallam said: Whosoever believes in Allah and the
Last Day should extend hospitality to his guests. And whosoever believes in
Allah and the Last Day should be kind to his
relations. And whosoever believes in Allah and the Last Day should either speak
well or keep silent. (Bukhari)
269. Anas ibne-Malik Radiyallahu 'anhu narrates
that Rasulullah Sallallahu 'alaihi wasallam said: He who likes his livelihood
to be increased, and his life prolonged, should kindly fulfil the rights of
his relatives. (Bukhari)
270. Sa'Td ibne-Zaid Radiyallahu 'anhu narrates
that indeed Nabi Sallallahu 'alaihi wasallam said: Verily, this Raham (bond of kinship)
is a branch of Ar Rahman ('Azza wa Jail). He who breaks it, Allah will prohibit
Paradise on him.
(Musnad
Ahmad, Bazzar, Majma'uz-Zawaid)
271. 'Abdullah ibne-'Amr Radiyallahu 'anhuma
narrates that Nabi Sallallahu 'alaihi wasallam said: He is not strengthening
bonds of kinship who just reciprocates the conduct of his relatives; but the
one,
who joins his ties of relationship when they are
severed, is strengthening the bond . (Bukhari)
272. 'Ala' ibne-Kharijah Radiyallahu 'anhu
narrates that Rasululiah Sallallahu 'alaihi wasallam said: Learn enough of your
lineage by means of which you are able to bind ties with your relatives.
(TabaranT, Majma'uz-Zawaid)
273. Abu Dhar Radiyallahu 'anhu narrates that my
close friend Sallallahu 'alaihi wasallam qrdered me seven things:
1. He ordered me to love the poor, and be close
to them.
2. He ordered me to look at those inferior to
me, and not to look at those who are superior.
3. He ordered me to bind ties of kinship; even
if they turn away from me.
4. He ordered me not to ask anyone for anything.
5. He
ordered me to speak the 'truth, though it may be bitter.
6. He ordered me not to fear the reproach of
anyone in respect to the orders of Allah.
7. And he ordered me to recite frequently, La
haula wala quwata ilia billah. 'There is no might to resist evil, and no power
to do good, except through Allah", for these words are undoubtedly from
the
treasure under the Throne.
(Musnad
Ahmad)
Note: Anyone who regularly recites La haula wala
quwata ilia billah undoubtedly is entitled to a very big reward. (Mazahir
Haque)
274. Jubair ibne-Mut'im Radiyallahu 'anhu
narrates that verily NabT Sallallahu 'alaihi wasallam said: He will not enter
Paradise who breaks ties of kinship. (Bukhan)
Note: Severing ties of kinship is such a
grievous sin that none stained with it will be able to enter Paradise. However,
when one is cleansed after undergoing punishment, or is pardoned by Allah
Subhanahu wa Ta'ala for some reason or without any reason, then he will be able
to enter Paradise. (Ma'ariful Hadith)
275. Abu Hurairah Radiyallahu 'anhu narrates
that a man said: O Rasulallah! I have relatives with whom I try to unite ties,
but they severe relations with me. I treat them kindly, but they treat me
badly. I forbear their excesses and they are rude to me. Rasulullah
Sallallahu 'alaihi wasallam said: If you are as
you say, it is as if you are casting hot ashes on their faces; and so long as
you maintain this behaviour, you will have support against them from Allah.
(Muslim)
