Islamic Manners Talking
1. Talk in a polite and moderate voice, don't shout or talk in an extremely high or rude voice because Allah does not like it. Invite people to Islam with wisdom and beautiful preaching. We should not abuse what other people worship. Don't quarrel about religion; don't force people, because truth is clear.
2. The Holy Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wasallam has said in this hadith recorded (Ibn Kathir from Abi Hurairah, (recorded in Sahih muslim)
«إِنَّ اللهَ يَرْضَى لَكُمْ ثَلَاثًا، وَيَسْخَطُ لَكُمْ ثَلَاثًا: يَرْضَى لَكُمْ أَنْ تَعْبُدُوهُ وَلَا تُشْرِكُوا بِهِ شَيْئًا، وَأَنْ تَعْتَصِمُوا بِحَبْلِ اللهِ جَمِيعًا وَلَا تَفَرَّقُوا،وَأَنْ تَنَاصَحُوا مَنْ وَلَّاهُ اللهُ أَمْرَكُمْ. وَيَسْخَطُ لَكُمْ ثَلَاثًا: قِيلَ وَقَالَ، وَكَثْرَةَ السُّؤَالِ، وَإِضَاعَةَ الْمَال»
“that there are three things Allah Almighty h a s liked for you while there are three others He has disliked.”
The ones He has liked are as follows:
1. That your worship should be for Allah alone a n d t h a t you should not attribute partne r s to His divinity.
2. That you should hold on to the Book of Allah firmly and avoid disunity.
3. That you should have goodwill for those in authority from among you.
The three things which cause Allah's displeasure are :
1. Unnecessary argumentation.
2. Needless asking.
3. Wastage of resources.
3 . Remember that the person who invites people to do good deeds is given the same rewards, which people do as the result of his invitation. Allah hates a person when he says other people to do well but he does not.
3. Don't use bad language like ridiculing each other, mock, call names, spy on each other, insult, taunt, backbite, for backbiting is like eating the flesh of your dead brother and is punished in the grave, don't
curse, don't blame a person without any fault, or blaming a person for your own fault, stay away from useless talk, swear or say anything that causes fight or division. (Al-Hujurat).
4. Speak the truth, be an honest witness, stand out for justice, even it is against your own relatives.
5. Say inshallah (Allah willing) when saying I will do something in the future. If you see something wonderful in Allah's creation, Say rabbanah rna khalaqtha haza batelan subhanaka faquenah aazabannar (Oh lord, you didn't create anything in vain, you are free from all faults, and save us from your hell fire) You will be counted as a good person or knowledgeable person. You can also praise Allah by saying subhanalla alhumdulilla etc.
6. Don't brag about yourself for Allah doesn't like the proud. Allah gives his Deen to the humble souls. Never get extremely angry, controlling anger is a virtue.
7. Listen to other people respectfully, don't interrupt the speech. You may ask questions later. Don't stay away from common people, ignore their faults, and set a good example among them. Teach them about Islam. Avoid stubborn/arrogant people politely by saying Salam.
8. Talk to your youngster with affection and to your elders and knowledgeable persons with respect.
9. Many people will be thrown into Hell because of the sayings oftheir tongue. Whosoever believes in Allah and the Last Day either speaks well or keeps silent. Keep your hands and mouth from harming another Muslim or a neighbor.
10. If you have nothing to say, keep your tongue moist with Allah's remembrance. You will be victorious before Allah. Saying subhan allahe wabeham dehe subhan allahil azem (Allah is free from all faults, and I am praising Him, and He is the Most Perfect, the Magnificent). It is heavy in the reward's scale, but light in your tongue. Anyone remembers Allah, Allah remembers him.
