Child Care and Parenting
1. The mothers shall give suck to their children for 2 whole years, for those who desire to complete the term of suckling, but the father of the child shall bear the cost of the mother's food and clothing on a
reasonable basis. (2:233).
2. And kill not your children for fear of poverty. (17:31).
3. A boy is being held in pledge for his Aqiqah that is slaughtered for him on the 7th day. He should also be named on that day and have his hair shaven from his head. (Abu Dawud).
4.Honor your children and bring them up well. Verily, your children are a gift for you. (Ibn Majah).
5. Be equitable among your children when it comes to giving to them. If I were to give preference to anyone, I would give preference to the females. (Baihaqi).
6. Teach the child to pray at the age of 7 and beat them to do it at the age of lO. And separate them in their bedding.(Abu Dawwod)
7.Omar Rasiallah u Anhu said: Marry from the pious households, for verily genetics has a strong effect. Once a Bedouin was showing his children what a favor he did to them by choosing their mother, he told them: The first good thing I did towards you was my choosing of a good noble family whose ancestors were chaste.
Children Etiquette
1. Give thanks to Allah, examples: say alhamdulillah, Make Salah as gratitude to Allah, give some money or food to needy as charity.
2. Give Azan to the ears of the child.
3. Say bismillah and and let the child lick the fingertip with honey or chewed dates (very small amounts).
4. Give a good name relating to names of Allah or name of Prophet or a Sahaba.
5. On the 7th day, sacrifice 2 goat or sheep for a boy and 1 for a girl. It is sadaqa for the child's life. Shave the hair of the newborn. If possible weigh the hair and give the amount of silver in charity to the poor. You may have an akika and invite people to dinner but avoid extravaganza.
6. Circumcise for boy.
7. Child's rights:
- Try to get a pious Muslim Parents, so she can train the child from childhood to be pious.(collective responsibility of father mother and family)
- Get a nice name.
- Feed mother's milk.
- To get Islamic education, bring him/her to an Islamic community.
- Play with your children first 7 years, next 7 years teach the value of Quranic teachings,
- teach how to do good and stop evil,
- feed halal earned, halal food,
- teach about kindness and simple lifestyles;
